I. Sender: through selective self presentation, people try to create the best image of themselves to get the best response.
mediatedtruth (3:15:47 AM): hello… asl please?
amfa_angeliali23 (3:16:08 AM): 23, f, phil
amfa_angeliali23 (3:16:40 AM): you? asl?
mediatedtruth (3:16:57 AM): 35, m, india
mediatedtruth (3:17:37 AM): you have many names
amfa_angeliali23 (3:18:18 AM): yeah... stupid of me
mediatedtruth (3:18:57 AM): no, that's clever, i have even more :)
amfa_angeliali23 (3:19:03 AM): its only suppose to be ali
mediatedtruth (3:20:18 AM): okay ... how do you pronounce it? ayli?
amfa_angeliali23 (3:20:45 AM): no.. like mohamod ali
amfa_angeliali23 (3:21:16 AM): the boxer
amfa_angeliali23 (3:22:19 AM): whats your name?
mediatedtruth (3:23:21 AM): faisal
amfa_angeliali23 (3:23:36 AM): interesting name...
amfa_angeliali23 (3:23:40 AM): what does it mean?
mediatedtruth (3:24:52 AM): one who makes decisions
amfa_angeliali23 (3:25:02 AM): ohh..
In this case, I logged in a Yahoo chat room for ‘book lovers’ and ‘book worms’, so from the start I expected to chat with someone who likes reading. We both started off simple and welcoming. He begins to be kind and funny as he asks about my nicknames. I try not to be embarrassed by it and still easy going and just make fun of myself. We slowly start to get to know each other.
II. Reciever: interaction begins on similarities. Things we both could relate to and understand so we could have something to talk about and things that would least likely cause any conflicts.
amfa_angeliali23 (3:26:55 AM): i understand... i'm the eldest
mediatedtruth (3:27:14 AM): me too
amfa_angeliali23 (3:27:48 AM): of how many?
mediatedtruth (3:28:43 AM): 4
amfa_angeliali23 (3:28:51 AM): i have 4 siblings
mediatedtruth (3:29:40 AM): okay
amfa_angeliali23 (3:30:24 AM): but 3 of them are half siblings
mediatedtruth (3:30:48 AM): ah, okay ... does it make a difference though?
amfa_angeliali23 (3:30:54 AM): no...
amfa_angeliali23 (3:31:12 AM): its just hard sometimes...
amfa_angeliali23 (3:31:23 AM): i'm like their mother
amfa_angeliali23 (3:32:04 AM): and i miss them cause they dont stay with us
mediatedtruth (3:32:21 AM): i understand, i also live with a stepmother
mediatedtruth (3:32:22 AM): but she doesn't have any children
…
amfa_angeliali23 (3:36:06 AM): my family isn't perfect either, but i'm lucky they try to get along
amfa_angeliali23 (3:36:29 AM): its very important to us
mediatedtruth (3:37:16 AM): yes, it's important to get along, to remain together ... help each other out
amfa_angeliali23 (3:37:35 AM): family is the most important thing
mediatedtruth (3:39:11 AM): agreed
After polite pleasantries, we both began with something we were sure we would have in common; both of us must have families. So we talked about our place in our families, our responsibilities as the eldest. Hardships and conflict within the family came up as well and we both share that burden but we both agreed that our family is the most important thing we
III. Channel: in chatting, its very uncertain of when and how to people could chat with each other again. That is why its part of our responsibility to either make sure we’ll never be able to chat again because I don’t like you, or to make sure that we will because I really enjoyed chatting with you.
mediatedtruth (3:58:26 AM): well, i need to go now, very late over here
amfa_angeliali23 (3:58:30 AM): ok..
amfa_angeliali23 (3:58:34 AM): please ad me
mediatedtruth (3:58:41 AM): i have
amfa_angeliali23 (3:58:47 AM): thanks
amfa_angeliali23 (3:58:54 AM): chat again soon i hope
mediatedtruth (3:59:06 AM): goodnight, and good luck with your ambitions to become a writer :)
amfa_angeliali23 (3:59:14 AM): thank you
amfa_angeliali23 (3:59:20 AM): good luck with your family
amfa_angeliali23 (3:59:27 AM): i hope everything will be well
mediatedtruth (3:59:51 AM): thanks, goodnight
After chatting with ‘mediatedtruth’ for about an hour, I decided that I liked chatting with him and would like to chat with him again. That’s why I asked him to add me to his YM account so that we’ll keep in touch and we’ll be able to chat again. We didn’t schedule any time in particular but a friendship was struck and we made a promise to chat again whenever we possibly could.
IV. Feedback: this is the self-fulfilling prophecy part, in which expectations are made about each other.
amfa_angeliali23 (3:25:10 AM): you must be responsible then
mediatedtruth (3:25:53 AM): yes, i try to be
amfa_angeliali23 (3:26:16 AM): thats good
…
mediatedtruth (3:39:21 AM): like i and my wife stay with my family
amfa_angeliali23 (3:39:58 AM): extended family can be difficult
mediatedtruth (3:40:41 AM): yup
…
mediatedtruth (3:44:24 AM): so what do you do for a living? i am a teacher
amfa_angeliali23 (3:44:34 AM): i'm a librarian
amfa_angeliali23 (3:45:14 AM): and a student
mediatedtruth (3:45:29 AM): okay, what kind of library do you work at?
mediatedtruth (3:45:40 AM): as a teacher, i love to use libraries
amfa_angeliali23 (3:45:42 AM): public library
amfa_angeliali23 (3:46:04 AM): me too
amfa_angeliali23 (3:46:11 AM): i plan to be a writer one day
mediatedtruth (3:46:34 AM): what kind of writer? creative writer or journalist?
amfa_angeliali23 (3:46:50 AM): creative.. scripts, stories
amfa_angeliali23 (3:47:03 AM): anything with dialouge
mediatedtruth (3:47:32 AM): ahan, it's a very challenging task
amfa_angeliali23 (3:47:57 AM): i love it
amfa_angeliali23 (3:48:36 AM): i like writing about people and how they behave
amfa_angeliali23 (3:48:41 AM): what do you teach
amfa_angeliali23 (3:48:42 AM): ???
mediatedtruth (3:49:02 AM): many things, including English literature :)
amfa_angeliali23 (3:49:12 AM): that's great
After knowing his age, his work and his family life I got the impression of how responsible, mature and dedicated he was. Being a teacher and having a wife made me think that he was settled in his life. Then learning that he was an English literature teacher really interested me. This gave me and image of him being intelligent, dignified. I could even picture him behind his desk checking his student’s test papers. His hair a bit ruffled, eyeglasses right in place. His briefcase next to his chair probably filled with the usual stuff but definitely at least one book of poems. Indirectly we didn’t just blurt out what kind of people we were, but we shared things about us that could reveal more about ourselves.
mediatedtruth (3:15:47 AM): hello… asl please?
amfa_angeliali23 (3:16:08 AM): 23, f, phil
amfa_angeliali23 (3:16:40 AM): you? asl?
mediatedtruth (3:16:57 AM): 35, m, india
mediatedtruth (3:17:37 AM): you have many names
amfa_angeliali23 (3:18:18 AM): yeah... stupid of me
mediatedtruth (3:18:57 AM): no, that's clever, i have even more :)
amfa_angeliali23 (3:19:03 AM): its only suppose to be ali
mediatedtruth (3:20:18 AM): okay ... how do you pronounce it? ayli?
amfa_angeliali23 (3:20:45 AM): no.. like mohamod ali
amfa_angeliali23 (3:21:16 AM): the boxer
amfa_angeliali23 (3:22:19 AM): whats your name?
mediatedtruth (3:23:21 AM): faisal
amfa_angeliali23 (3:23:36 AM): interesting name...
amfa_angeliali23 (3:23:40 AM): what does it mean?
mediatedtruth (3:24:52 AM): one who makes decisions
amfa_angeliali23 (3:25:02 AM): ohh..
In this case, I logged in a Yahoo chat room for ‘book lovers’ and ‘book worms’, so from the start I expected to chat with someone who likes reading. We both started off simple and welcoming. He begins to be kind and funny as he asks about my nicknames. I try not to be embarrassed by it and still easy going and just make fun of myself. We slowly start to get to know each other.
II. Reciever: interaction begins on similarities. Things we both could relate to and understand so we could have something to talk about and things that would least likely cause any conflicts.
amfa_angeliali23 (3:26:55 AM): i understand... i'm the eldest
mediatedtruth (3:27:14 AM): me too
amfa_angeliali23 (3:27:48 AM): of how many?
mediatedtruth (3:28:43 AM): 4
amfa_angeliali23 (3:28:51 AM): i have 4 siblings
mediatedtruth (3:29:40 AM): okay
amfa_angeliali23 (3:30:24 AM): but 3 of them are half siblings
mediatedtruth (3:30:48 AM): ah, okay ... does it make a difference though?
amfa_angeliali23 (3:30:54 AM): no...
amfa_angeliali23 (3:31:12 AM): its just hard sometimes...
amfa_angeliali23 (3:31:23 AM): i'm like their mother
amfa_angeliali23 (3:32:04 AM): and i miss them cause they dont stay with us
mediatedtruth (3:32:21 AM): i understand, i also live with a stepmother
mediatedtruth (3:32:22 AM): but she doesn't have any children
…
amfa_angeliali23 (3:36:06 AM): my family isn't perfect either, but i'm lucky they try to get along
amfa_angeliali23 (3:36:29 AM): its very important to us
mediatedtruth (3:37:16 AM): yes, it's important to get along, to remain together ... help each other out
amfa_angeliali23 (3:37:35 AM): family is the most important thing
mediatedtruth (3:39:11 AM): agreed
After polite pleasantries, we both began with something we were sure we would have in common; both of us must have families. So we talked about our place in our families, our responsibilities as the eldest. Hardships and conflict within the family came up as well and we both share that burden but we both agreed that our family is the most important thing we
III. Channel: in chatting, its very uncertain of when and how to people could chat with each other again. That is why its part of our responsibility to either make sure we’ll never be able to chat again because I don’t like you, or to make sure that we will because I really enjoyed chatting with you.
mediatedtruth (3:58:26 AM): well, i need to go now, very late over here
amfa_angeliali23 (3:58:30 AM): ok..
amfa_angeliali23 (3:58:34 AM): please ad me
mediatedtruth (3:58:41 AM): i have
amfa_angeliali23 (3:58:47 AM): thanks
amfa_angeliali23 (3:58:54 AM): chat again soon i hope
mediatedtruth (3:59:06 AM): goodnight, and good luck with your ambitions to become a writer :)
amfa_angeliali23 (3:59:14 AM): thank you
amfa_angeliali23 (3:59:20 AM): good luck with your family
amfa_angeliali23 (3:59:27 AM): i hope everything will be well
mediatedtruth (3:59:51 AM): thanks, goodnight
After chatting with ‘mediatedtruth’ for about an hour, I decided that I liked chatting with him and would like to chat with him again. That’s why I asked him to add me to his YM account so that we’ll keep in touch and we’ll be able to chat again. We didn’t schedule any time in particular but a friendship was struck and we made a promise to chat again whenever we possibly could.
IV. Feedback: this is the self-fulfilling prophecy part, in which expectations are made about each other.
amfa_angeliali23 (3:25:10 AM): you must be responsible then
mediatedtruth (3:25:53 AM): yes, i try to be
amfa_angeliali23 (3:26:16 AM): thats good
…
mediatedtruth (3:39:21 AM): like i and my wife stay with my family
amfa_angeliali23 (3:39:58 AM): extended family can be difficult
mediatedtruth (3:40:41 AM): yup
…
mediatedtruth (3:44:24 AM): so what do you do for a living? i am a teacher
amfa_angeliali23 (3:44:34 AM): i'm a librarian
amfa_angeliali23 (3:45:14 AM): and a student
mediatedtruth (3:45:29 AM): okay, what kind of library do you work at?
mediatedtruth (3:45:40 AM): as a teacher, i love to use libraries
amfa_angeliali23 (3:45:42 AM): public library
amfa_angeliali23 (3:46:04 AM): me too
amfa_angeliali23 (3:46:11 AM): i plan to be a writer one day
mediatedtruth (3:46:34 AM): what kind of writer? creative writer or journalist?
amfa_angeliali23 (3:46:50 AM): creative.. scripts, stories
amfa_angeliali23 (3:47:03 AM): anything with dialouge
mediatedtruth (3:47:32 AM): ahan, it's a very challenging task
amfa_angeliali23 (3:47:57 AM): i love it
amfa_angeliali23 (3:48:36 AM): i like writing about people and how they behave
amfa_angeliali23 (3:48:41 AM): what do you teach
amfa_angeliali23 (3:48:42 AM): ???
mediatedtruth (3:49:02 AM): many things, including English literature :)
amfa_angeliali23 (3:49:12 AM): that's great
After knowing his age, his work and his family life I got the impression of how responsible, mature and dedicated he was. Being a teacher and having a wife made me think that he was settled in his life. Then learning that he was an English literature teacher really interested me. This gave me and image of him being intelligent, dignified. I could even picture him behind his desk checking his student’s test papers. His hair a bit ruffled, eyeglasses right in place. His briefcase next to his chair probably filled with the usual stuff but definitely at least one book of poems. Indirectly we didn’t just blurt out what kind of people we were, but we shared things about us that could reveal more about ourselves.
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